Finding Dementia Care for a Parent Long Distance
After our holiday visit home to my husband’s parents’ house in the Fort Collins, Colorado area, we realized just how much his Mom’s Alzheimer’s disease has progressed. His Dad is worn out from trying to keep up with her. We couldn’t believe how long she goes without sleeping!
Our family lives so far away that we can’t keep a close eye on them. We both think his Mom needs to move to a dementia care assisted living community, but we just hate to see them split up. His Dad is so devoted to her, but it is obvious caregiving is taking a real toll on him. He has lost weight and he told us when he had his yearly physical the doctor told him that his blood pressure is high.
We aren’t sure what to do next…
Alzheimer’s disease definitely impacts the entire family. It is a difficult disease for an older caregiving spouse to try to manage at home. Your husband is probably right in believing a dementia care assisted living--sometimes referred to as a memory care program--might be the best solution for his father.
What you might want to consider is a senior living community that can accommodate both of your parents’ needs. It could be that your father lives in an independent or assisted living apartment while your mother is close by in an area of the community developed specifically to support those living with memory loss.
Because you live so far away, you can conduct your initial research online. Read about the communities close to them on each company website, look at a company’s Facebook page and see what other families have to say on senior care review sites like Caring.com or SeniorAdvisor.com. These sites can all give you insight as to the level of expertise of the staff and the culture of the community.
One final recommendation is to consider employing the services of a geriatric care manager. These are trained professionals who have backgrounds in helping families select and monitor senior care providers. We can also pay visits to your parents’ home before they make the transition to a senior living community to help you objectively assess how well they are managing on their own.
Please let us know if you have any more questions or if we can be of help to your family in your search for senior care!
Need more advice on caring for your loved one with dementia? Contact us at 970.204.6977 today! From personal care needs and case management to guardianship concerns, Seniors in Transition provides consulting services to help families turn frustrating health care problems into quality, affordable solutions. Seniors in Transition is here to help families in the Fort Collins, CO and Loveland, CO areas.